I suspect pretty much everybody cares a little bit more than he or she would care to admit
She’s right you know…
Complex though innit? STW is fascinating for all it’s different characters and personalities. Great place to gain an insight into the Human psyche.
Elfin goes out of his way to make sure people don’t like him
😀 You Silly Billy TSY…
Anyone who says they don’t care what others think of them is either a complete liar or incredibly emotionally disabled. Of course you care. Otherwise, why shave, why wear certain clothes, why wear clothes at all, why behave in a particular manner in particular situations, why bother interacting with others, why exist at all?
We all care, course we do. We’re Humans; social animals. We depend on our social and emotional relationships with others; that’s what defines us as individuals, as ourselves.
To claim that one doesn’t care about the opinion of others is simply an attempt to display a strength, a toughness, an invulnerability. People don’t want to appear ‘weak’; the admission that you are in fact bothered by the opinions of others may mark you out as such. Or such is our socially engendered fear.
Very interesting question posed by the OP, and a frank and honest comment too.
I spose we care most about the opinions of those whose approval and acknowledgement we seek the most. Maybe, the less confident we are, the more we seek these things from more people, as we’re unsure as to whose approval we really need to gain. And maybe, the more confident we are, the less approval we need from a wider circle. But we still crave the approval of strangers. We still need to gain allies, confidants, people we can trust. That’s what much of social behaviour is all about.
There are 5 people on the planet whose opinions about me I care about – my wife, my 3 children and myself. Nobody else matters.
Complete and utter bullshit. Speshly from those two! Otherwise, why are you seeking affirmation on an internet forum, if you truly don’t care what others think? Why bother posting your opinions on this thread??? The truth lies somewhere in the opposite of such statements. And you can argue all you like, but who are you fooling? Really? Not me. No matter how loud you shout.
Do I care what others think of me? Course I do. Do I care what everyone thinks of me? Do I have enough capacity to consider every single opinion of myself? Who does? So it’s always a compromise. i’ll try to modify my behaviour according to my perception of the needs of those I care about first, those I respect, those whose opinions and views I respect the most. The rest is a sliding scale of GAF.
Anyway it’s too late for such deep philosophical ramblings and whatnot right now, and CSI New York is on now. 🙂
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